I don't know if this type of parenting is Dr. Sears recommended, but it's working for us. And I'm a firm believer in doing things that work for your family, regardless of what critics say. I've also been trying to lay off her a bit, letting her figure out her own issues and not harp so much on the little things. I've found when I am grouchy, she gets grouchy, and the circle of crabbiness never ends. The more yelling I do, the more negative things occur. So duh, stop yelling so much.
Sylvia is a dramatic child, but drama can be positive if set on a stage and with some music and costumes. Keeping her positive behavior appropriately focused is working well for her. Doing the frustrating activities that invite bad behavior is being avoided. Seems obvious, doesn't it? Well, maybe if you're not as tired as we are around here!